01 — Acknowledging how you feel

A major part of shifting mindsets is first, acknowledging how we feel. Singleness can be hard. If you’ve been struggling with the fear of never finding a significant other, I’m so glad you have joined this course. We will dive into different aspects such as the myths surrounding singleness, upbringing, conditioning, identity and self worth. But we cannot dig deeper without first acknowledging the real and present feelings that prolonged singleness can bring.

02 — Uncovering the root

Complete the sentence. Being single is - ? A lot of how we feel about singleness can be driven by our upbringing, negative perceptions towards singleness, cultural or societal pressures. We’re going to unpack some of the well known myths about singleness and counter them with some truths.

03 — Practicing positive self-talk

If you’ve struggled with being single, you may find yourself spiralling into unhealthy or negative patterns of internal dialogue - “I’m not good enough”, “No one will ever want me”, “I will always be alone.” When we start to use words like always and never, we are affirming negative self-talk that will keep us feeling stuck and even cause us to question our worth. If we speak this way long enough, we create hurdles with our words that can then feel impossible to overcome.

04 — Identity & self worth

For Christian singles, it can be hard to hear recycled advice about “finding contentment in singleness” or “appreciating the gift of singleness” when you’re feeling stuck in a place you’d rather not be. It can be easy to forget who defines us (God) and where our identity and true worth really come from. We will dive into how we can let God, who is constant, define us and help us to navigate through times where we feel defined by being single.